Time Bankcrupt

I have no time for anything, but then find myself having too much time. It's a weird state I am in

Finished my 20-page paper though... Round two of revisions and then ONE MORE TIME AROUND until the final draft...

anyway, this is what i've been thinking about lately:

Anytime you find yourself in a situation where a friend, family member, ANYONE is coming to you for a problem, it is very important to ask that person how they feel about the given situation. This question is so loaded that it usually presses the person to really figure out their emotion on the subject.

Usually, the emotion roots back to fear... fear of SOMETHING that ended up turning into sadness, anger, embarrassment, humiliation...

what are you afraid of?? When you can help someone figure that out, you can help them resolve their own problem...

It also helps that person walk through their own emotion instead of just sitting there and listening to you trying to make up some superficial way to make them feel better... SOMETIMES all they need is a person to just listen.

On that note, egging the person on in their story does ABSOLUTELY NOTHING for the other person... it usually ends up with a giant instigated response that leaves the person more mad, sad, embarrassed, etc.

EXAMPLE:
scene: Betty comes to you when she found out her boyfriend MIGHT be cheating on her.
Betty: Holy fuck I just read through Jon's texts and there's this girl that keeps texting him everyday, all day and i KNOW he's cheating on me.
You: WHAT THE FUCK!! Fuck Jon!! He's an asshole!! Who is this girl?? let's get her number out of his phone and call that bitch out!! COME ON!
Betty: YEA!!!
exit scene with pitchforks and gloves on


don't deny it... you've been THAT friend before.

Now You Know.